No one said it was easy, so why did I expect I could simply give it a crack? Some of you may know that I’m getting hitched towards the end of next month (same day as my car insurance) and with the whole package of marriage comes the preparation, the saving, the constant re-arranging, the family considerations, the stag do and of course all the rest of the admin that goes along with it.
The past few months have been fairly interesting as the organisation of the wedding is coming together and all our hard earned cash is starting to pay off for various things such as the cake, band, church, venue, flowers, suits, honeymoon and car etc It never seems to end. I thought I was good at organisation and planning, previously working for an events company I thought it’d be a breeze. Boy was I wrong!
Next weekend is the infamous stag do (Pictures will be available) and one of which I have been most looking forward to. Although the amount of effort that has gone into getting a group of lads together has been particularly challenging. Whether its not communicating back (at all in some cases) or at the last minute dropping out, not paying up or suddenly deciding they are busy has been some of the many curveballs that have thrown the operation out of sync! This isn’t a rant or to point fingers or to say to those that their friendships are weak. Not at all! In fact my woes are not even that bad compared to the unfortunate lack of social interest in the Hen do!
Are we bad people? I don’t think so…bad timing? perhaps…or simply just a lack of courtesy? More like it! It would appear that no matter how much you do to make things right, do things correctly, help others when needed, provide services off your own back for the good of others it nearly always doesn’t mean much when you ask for a favour in return.
Don’t get me wrong, there are some great people and friends that we have out there, but there are also a lot who probably won’t care either way. Something I’ve also learnt to observe is that in business if you do a favour for someone it is more likely to make a return than if you did it for a friend…why is that when business is supposed to be so competitive. I’ve been to networking functions where I’ve felt more welcome and more appreciated than my local church, and yet I have no real connection with them other than we are here to make money.
Anyway, I digress…the point I’m trying to make is that even through all the plans and careful considerations, the countless revisions and the stringent co-ordination just because we do good things, work well, achieve our goals there will be others, even your closest of friends that won’t give the consideration you perhaps think you deserve. A quote by Dennis Wholey “Expecting the world to treat you fairly because you are good is like expecting the bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian.”
Unfortunately that’s just the way the world ticks round! But hey, that’s just my view…slightly negative I know and I guess the most important word of advice and something I find useful to do is to simply pursue. There’s no point worrying what everyone else thinks and the good news is to know that the ones who stay by closest and give you the respect you deserve are what you can most likely call your ‘real friends’, of which I know we have a lot of. Quite often I have been the culprit of dwelling on what I can do to gain authority from those may not be willing to give it and in the very same instant missed out on possible opportunities, thankfully none to serious.
So as we draw ever close to the day where we flock our nests and begin our own lives I have one thing that I feel I would like to contribute after my latest recent epiphany: Quite often it is better to do something right now, rather than necessarily doing it right.
Basically just get on do whatever it is you want and don’t hold up because others have their opinion about how you should do it. Too many people have kicked themselves for waiting too long!
And without further a due I am logging off…finally!!!! lol
